I am so impressed by Whitney's Love Story, and they are making PW's into a movie - so I was inspired. I thought I would recount the tale of an up-tight lawyer and a carefree musician and our journey toward love.
The working title is "Match Made" in heaven for we were, indeed, the product of a dear friend's match-making! To see how it unfolds you will have to stay tuned.
I had never really "dated". I had one blind date in 10th grade and it was a DISASTER. James Cameron is making a movie about that date. Kate Winslet is playing me and Celene Dion is doing the soundtrack.
I had a steady boyfriend my last year of High School and we were together for four years. I am sure everyone thought we were headed for the alter. Then one day we realised we had grown up and apart and it ended.
I had a steady boy friend in law school. We dated for four years (are you seeing a pattern?) everyone thought we were headed for the alter. Then one day I realised he was a lying cheating dirt bag who did not deserve to speak my name.
This left me a single gal in my mid-twenties who had never "dated".
With that background in mind I hope you will forgive my brief but very stupid foray into the dating game. I remember the exact moment I decided I was ready to date. I was out on a girls night and suddenly just felt ready. The wounds caused by The Cheater had healed enough and I felt good. My time was no longer about the absence of him. I was enjoying being by myself. I was ready!
I announced this to my friends to their extreme amusement. I mean laughter. Loud laughter. They knew I was not a "dater". I decided to prove them wrong!
There was a boy, kind of a friend on the outer circle of my group. I had known him for years. I also knew he had been in love with me for years. Since the days of HSSH (High School Sweat Heart). Our timing had never been right as we were never single at the same time.
I asked my friend Tanya for his number.
She exploded. "No nononono. No. No way" I could see she needed a bit of convincing.
In the end she contacted him and had him call me one day. Very discreet. He called and we talked on the phone for ages. Like two hours! It was so nice to hear a boy say nice things to me after having such a broken heart.
As we headed into hour three he made a casual reference to his girl friend.
You have been flirting with me for two hours and asking for my address so you can come over??
Are you kidding me?
I just gone done with a lying, cheating, cold dead beating, two-timing, double dealing mean mistreating, loving heart.
I am not going down that road again. Further more, I am NEVER going to be the OTHER WOMAN in that scenario!
Needless to say I ended the call very quickly. He emailed and texted but I ignored him. I saw him in person a few weeks after that - with his girlfriend!
I was rapidly losing confidence in my ability to date.